Is it rude to invite yourself out?

As in, a close friend says they're doing such and such with so and so, and you ask, "Can I join?"
Is it rude to invite yourself out?
It really depends on the circumstance. If your friend was invited by another friend, you should not ask because she is not the host.





That is just one example.





As a general rule, I do not invite myself. Your friends should be the one who is inviting you. However, I do feel there are some circumstances that it is proper to ask.
Reply:depend on wat they are doing 1st.


and if their really close friend, i guess they wouldnt mind.
Reply:not rreally,
Reply:Sure I don't see why not - they should invite you anyway though - I hate when people do that - it's mean =( Yea just say - hey I'm not doing much that night - mind if I come?? Sometimes they assume you wouuld go if you wanted to or they wouldn't even tell you so maybe you are already (although not voiced) invited.
Reply:sure..


be4c they all ur frens
Reply:If they didn't want you to invite yourself, they shouldn't have mentioned it. People know this. Think about it. When you don't want someone tagging along when you are going somewhere, you simply don't mention your plans around them.





Keep inviting yourself. Chances are they mentioned it with the hopes that you would do so, and make the outing more interesting for them.
Reply:I have no friends so I don't know if thats rude
Reply:Well, it's okay sometimes,


But dont use it too often


It could get annoying.


And ask your friend to be honest with you


Or you guys wont have much fun..
Reply:what a loser... u shouldnt even be allowed on line
Reply:Don't ever invite yourself out when you're not invited.





Ask if you could join. That is showing RESPECT.





If your close friend is going out on a date with someone, don't invite yourself or ask if you could join cause thats being totally rude.





Other than that, ask if you could join.
Reply:yes if it is a close friend. If a person doesn't want you to come then they should not have given specific details and just said oh I have made plans, so nobody will get their feeling hurt.
Reply:Its annoying to say the least, so guess you could say it is rude, but if it is really casual then why not.





I wonder to if its not rude to of mentioned what your were doing and where your were going in front of someone you really didn't want to tag along. Why not just be quite and then the both of you would of felt more comfortable.
Reply:no it shows your out going
Reply:its not rude....its sick!...y dont u juz leave that so called frend !... if u are so deperate...y dont u have a nice time with other frends or family....
Reply:yes very rude
Reply:IT THEY ARE YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS, then there should be no problem.
Reply:No, but it's kind of rude when I turn myself down.
Reply:Yeeeeeaaaaaah, if they wanted you with them, they would have invited you. Don't feel bad, you just need better friends.
Reply:I'd say it's inappropriate and maybe even a little rude. If they didn't invite you with them in the first place it probably means they want to go without you, they may feel like being just the two of them for example, and by asking you're kind of forcing them to either take you with them even though they'd prefer not to, or to turn you down and feel like a jerk for that.
Reply:i think you should actually wait until you're invited and it's


highly likely you will be. you seem like a nice sort.
Reply:yeah, kinda rude
Reply:Sometimes it is. You should pull whom ever to the side and ask if they mind if you tagged along. Think about this if they had wanted you come along wouldn't they have asked you in the first place????
Reply:It depends on the such and such and so and so.





If the activity is conducive to deep talking like dinner or mini golf then no don't invite yourself. So and so and your close friend need some talking time.





If the activity is more a social scene like a movie or club then you could drop hints that you'd like to join.





Good luck.
Reply:No, but its damn bad if you stand yourself up.
Reply:I don't think it's rude. It's pathetic.
Reply:No, just preface it with 'I don't mind if I can't...'
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