Is it rude not to invite someone to your wedding if they invited u, but u haven't been in touch since ?

If its a big wedding, yes, its rude. If its a small one, then don't invite them - no big deal.
Is it rude not to invite someone to your wedding if they invited u, but u haven't been in touch since ?
weddings are all about rudeness. unless you want them there, leave them off the invite list. you are unobligated
Reply:I was a groomsman in my college roommate's wedding three years before mine. We lost touch after that and I didn't invite he and his wife to our wedding (his wife was my wife's college roommate). When I ran into him a few weeks ago, they both were very understanding.





It doesn't make it not rude, but it really won't matter in the long run.
Reply:Yes, but you should invite them because they probably will not come since you have lost touch. Worst case they come and you get another gift.
Reply:I don't think so, follow ur heart, ask around, (which, u already have,) get ur fiance's take on things, then ur all set.
Reply:If you don't want them to you just don't


But what if they find out about the wedding and you


didn't invite them hum? Then what?


You don't have to deal with them at the wedding


AND


That means you don't like that person
Reply:Yes, you should still invite them.. People expect to get invited even if you don't talk anymore since weddings are such a great social gathering.
Reply:It is a happy occasion and seeing more friends will add to your joy. Please invite.
Reply:if you haven't been in touch they wont know your getting married :D





its YOUR wedding, you invite whoever you want to be there, not whoever you feel SHOULD be there for a seemingly silly reason
Reply:I would invite them because they may still consider you a good friend even if your lives have moved different directions. One of my really good girlfriends got married a year ago and we never talk anymore but our friendship was that strong I traveled to her wedding and made a weekend out of it. Just send the invitation and the rest is up to them. You don't want to burn any bridges over a wedding invitation!!!
Reply:No
Reply:No, i dont think so. It's your day and you can have who you want there.
Reply:Wow, I can't believe how many people said it's rude. It's totally not! Geez, if we all made our guest lists based on stuff like this, we'd all have 300-person weddings where we don't even fully know half of the guests anymore.





Don't feel bad about it. You went to this person's wedding back when you knew them and now you have fallen out of touch so you are totally not obligated to invite them. You certainly can if you'd like to see them there, but if you've fallen out of touch and want to keep your guest list in line, then don't invite them!





ETA: That coworker you just met at your brand new job? For all you know, she could one day become your closest friend. Guess we should all worry about inviting the people who will become close to us in the future, too. :)





People change and grow, relationships shift and develop or drift away...you don't have to invite every person you've ever known or met. Even if you did go to their weddings once upon a time.
Reply:Yes, you should invite them. They may not go to your wedding, but it is always nice to be invited.
Reply:I think you should still invite them, it's only common courtesy. They may not even choose to come since yall haven't been in touch, but atleast you 're showing you care
Reply:I think, if you used to be friends and they invited you to their wedding, you should return the favor. If they show up it's their own desire.
Reply:yes
Reply:no its not rude. your wedding is just that your's . its your special day you should invite people that you want to share this special day with..dont make a happy day a sad day. invite whom you want to be there and feel good about it. congratulations...
Reply:I have just been through a wedding. Invite the people you want to share the day with. It is your wedding. Have fun. Enjoy it.
Reply:the simplest way to answer this question is, since you havent been in touch with this person, will anything change if you dont invite them. you dont talk to them now you wont talk to them afterwards. If you want to get back in touch with the person than invite them, if you dont care if you ever talk to them again then dont
Reply:Yes, if you haven't seen them in a while you'd want to get back in touch with them.
Reply:no because you haven't been in touch since.
Reply:Yes, it would be the polite thing to do. Who knows if they will even come or not, but you'll be happier with yourself if you just send the invite.
Reply:My vote is Yes.
Reply:if they invited you and you haven't been intouch you still should invite them if you have any feeling for them,
Reply:it depends what theyve done after the wedding, anything bad that sticks to you, do not do it. if its close to nothing, yes
Reply:Yes i think it is rude not to invite someone to your wedding if they invited you. I think you should call them up and invite them. I think they would appreciate it that you haven't forgotten about them.





Do on to others as they do on to you.
Reply:it depends on how long these people haven't been in touch. If it's only been a few months then yes it is rude. People get busy. But if it's been like 5 or 10 years think about it. Especially with the economy it is the way it is right now why would you pay for someone's meal that you haven't seen nor talked to in 5 or 10 years? Just cause they invited you to their wedding? Weddings aren't a time to reconnect if you are the bride/groom they barely get time to eat nevermind reconnect with old friends. if you want to reconnect with someone i suggest you do it BEFORE the invites are even sent out.





EDIT: and if you TRULY wanted to reconnect with old friends why in the world would you wait till your own wedding anyway? Why not just do it on some regular ole day of the week?


Inviting someone just to get the gift is 50 times worse than not inviting them at all
Reply:Yes! if the openly invited you to theirs. Just because you haven't been in touch with them shouldn't mean that you don't have to invite them. Simply ask them if they can attend the wedding!
Reply:Just because somebody invited you to their wedding does not mean you have to invite them to yours. Maybe they just had a much bigger wedding than you did, or maybe they knew fewer people and had a harder time finding people to invite. It doesn't mean you owe them anything.