It's been 2 weeks.. should he invite me to a wedding?

We're both 30.. and have been dating for 2 weeks now. He has a wedding in JAMAICA for one of his best friends coming up and he lamented that he is the only non-couple guest going.





Should I step up and offer to join him? He hasn't bought his ticket yet. Or, should I just hint that I'd be interested and see what he says?





Maybe inviting myself after 2 weeks is a little too much? Would he appreciate the gesture or run away? We talk everyday and it's pretty serious already.
It's been 2 weeks.. should he invite me to a wedding?
no don't say anything, let him ask you
Reply:When's the wedding?





I think it's a case of tricky timing; you can't invite yourself obviously. And I think the incredible pressure of coupling for a wedding so early in a relationship is just stratospherically high and monumentally inadvisable.





I mean, I don't know the guy but I'd love to go to Jamaica for a wedding too, so I see your dilemma.





I think you can't go. Think about the situation: he's the only person you know, and that is barely. The wedding's about his friend and the bride, not making sure you're okay in such a bizarre situation.





I really strongly advise you to resist the temptation to go.
Reply:I understand your dilemma, the beginning of a relationship is filled with awkward little bumps in the road! = )





You can offer a hint or two (keep it minimal) such as, "I've always thought Jamaica would be fun!" AND ask questions like..."have you seen pictures of the resort online, I bet it's gorgeous," "what kinds of things are there to do there...oh, really! That sounds like fun!" etcetera.





Try to make it more conversation, and interest in his life than bold hinting that you want to go. If you come right out and offer to accompany him...it may caste an awkwardness for him that cannot be undone and/or make him feel "pressured" and we all know how scared guys are of that.





Best Wishes
Reply:If you would enjoy and have the money for a vacation in Jamaica, you could always tell him you wouldn't mind being his date if he wants one, but that will book your own room or share a suite.





He could be testing the waters in hopes of getting intimate quicker. Either way, after 2 weeks you really don't know each other and could end the relationship.
Reply:You do not know the couple and bottom line if the invitation says only John Doe, that means John Doe and NO ONE ELSE.





You cannot "invite" yourself to an event of people you do not even know. It is quite presumtuous and pushy of you to want to invite yourself to an strangers wedding.





Show some class and manners if you want to keep this guy.





Good luck
Reply:well you could say something like "if you really feeling so down for being the only one that's going alone to the wedding I could come with you if you want of course"


my guess would be that he will take you with him .. well maybe it's just me but I would take a girl that I know with me if I was only one who is coming single to the wedding.
Reply:Wait until he says something, otherwise, it would sound like you are 'inviting yourself' other than them inviting you. You have known each other for 2 weeks, and lets say he MIGHT ask you to go with him, or MIGHT not. I'm saying that you can't 'invite yourself,' But can say stuff like, ' I hear your going to a wedding.'





Hope this helps - Good Luck - x


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Reply:just wait, maybe say something like be sure to take tons of pictures so you can show me what jamaica looks like, i've never been there, that a way you left a hint without inviting yourself along, and he knows you want to go so he will no doubt ask you to go good luck
Reply:try to get hem talking about about hes feelings on this but in my opinion


sorry no you maybe getting serious in your eye but really it seems to me that your still a young caple and this could be you pussing hem a little to far. but as i don't know how long you two have known each other.
Reply:I would let him know that if he would like you to go with him you would love to. But that if he would like to go on his own that is fine as well. That way you have let him know that either way its his choice but you wont be kicking yourself down the road for at least letting him know!
Reply:I think it's a bad idea - even if the wedding was in your neighbourhood. Weddings are a lose lose situation for new couples: either you get swept up in the romantic atmosphere and have sex too early, or you get way too drunka nd the same happens.
Reply:Inviting yourself would be rude. If he offers, great but I would not bring it up. It could be possible that since he is not in a serious relationship (aka engaged or married) that they did not invite him with the option of bringing a guest.
Reply:Heres the deal. You would have to pay for your own ticket. I'm sure he wants you to go, but doesn't want to invite you when he doesn't have the money to pay you a ticket.
Reply:no, dont offer. if he really wants you there he should ask. but i would say 2 weeks is really too soon. remember that this means meeting family! you dont want to get too involved too soon, trust me.
Reply:It is for him to ask you - I don,t feel it,s appropriate this early in relationship - especially as you don,t know the couple getting married
Reply:You write: Maybe inviting myself after 2 weeks is a little too much?





Yes. Yes, it is.
Reply:If he moans again about being the only non couple guest I would say something like, I know its pretty soon but im not doing anything that weekend if you want some company.
Reply:Let him make the decision. And traveling with someone you've only know for 2 weeks can be a landmine, so you might want to think about that even if he does ask.
Reply:I would hint to him about it.
Reply:Please do not ask him. Let him ask you, you may come across as being pushy even if you are not trying to be.
Reply:Let him invite you. Don't be pushy!
Reply:That is way too soon.
Reply:do not mention and do not go that is really rushing things
Reply:Never hurts to let him know your willing..Good luck
Reply:1. No, you should not step up and offer to join him. If he wanted you to go, or thought it appropriate for you to go at this stage in your relationship, he'd ask.





2. Yes, inviting yourself is too much - he would wonder why you think your relationship is so serious after 2 weeks that you'd be expected to join him at a destination wedding with his friends. I know you say it's "serious", but I've always found that there is a "serious" (yes, pun intended) difference in what that, and the seemingly "serious" gestures in the "honeymoon phase", means for men and women.





3. My last question/comment is whether you've met this friend who is getting married. How many of his friends have you met in this two weeks? If it was that "serious", he would have been compelled to introduce you to at least his best friend, just so that his friends can "feel you out", so to speak. If you haven't met anyone, regardless of the phone talking, it's not that serious to him unless he's really shy and scared to speak his mind.


Good luck.
Reply:If this was a wedding in the town next to you that would make a difference. In that case I would say, OF COURSE you should offer your company. The simple fact that he lamented to YOU that he is depressed that he's the only one without a date means that it at least crossed his mind that he wished he had one (meaning you).





The reason why I think he hasn't invited you is because he ALSO fears its too soon. To travel with someone to go to their best friends wedding after you've only been dating for two weeks is moving WAY too fast.





I say that you should keep quiet. If he mentions it again, then I would say "yeah, its too bad you aren't dating someone that is free that weekend" or something kind of funny. That way he can either laugh it off and be like "oh yeah, hahaha" or take you up on the offer. You have to do it really casually though because otherwise you WOULD come across as inviting yourself, and then he might feel smothered.





Best of luck!