My inlaws invite themselves over to stay all the time - advice!?

I mean, I love em, but what do you do when people just expect to stay at your house when they visit? there's another side of the family to stay with, but they say out place is more "comfortable". That's great and all, I don't mind occasionally, but it's not exactly fun all the time : )
My inlaws invite themselves over to stay all the time - advice!?
Hope one of these can help you out!





Start serving a lot of weird, exotic dishes.


Have a statue of Tom Cruise in the living room and say you went Scientology.


Buy a big, mean dog.


Run out of spare blankets.


Have a couple of bags packed, and whenever they show up, grab the bags and say you were just leaving for the weekend.


Learn to play the violin.


Rent the basement to a screamo band.


Mutter to yourself and twitch. A lot!


Forget all hygiene when they're over.
Reply:Let your husband know, for every time your in-laws come over that's two weeks with no sex. He's sure to fix the problem before you guys go to sleep tonight.
Reply:just have to arrange to b gone a few times..they should get the message. if not, maybe your hubby could gently speak with them. have they thought that maybe your house is more comfortable because you take the time to make it so and it is hard to do with guests around.
Reply:Tell your husband to sit down with his parents and tell them how both of your feel, concerning their visit.
Reply:Enjoy having them around. I would kill to be able to have my mother-in-law stay with us. My husband would love for my paretns to come over more often but they are too far away.





You do not know what you have until it is gone. I guess it depends on how your husband feels about it too. If he feels the same way than a sit-down talk about it might be in order. But if he enjoys having them around than I say suck it up.





This is just my opinion by the way. I miss my family terribly when they are away and would love for them to be able to come over all the time and stay with me





Family is the most important thing in the world.
Reply:I just saw the answer to this in the Ann Landers. It said something to the effect of offering to make reservations for them at a nice motel or hotel in as nice a way as you possibly can. Just tell them that they would be more comfortable there at the end of the day.
Reply:I hope they call you before they come! Next time, just say you're very busy that day/week - maybe work is very demanding - and ask if they wouldn't mind staying with the other relatives. If they say they would mind, say again, it just won't work for us that week (or month!). Be apologetic, sound like you're truly sorry you can't put them up, but it's just not possible this time. Maybe next time.
Reply:Un-invite them.
Reply:Oh my gawd, I'd shoot myself if my mother in law was staying over once a year let alone all the time! ugh! you're a saint. Basically, when they are there make the place "less comfortable" for them. Do the opposite of whatever they find makes your house their choice of squatting. Good luck!
Reply:ask them to call first. when they call, have a reason why this is not a good time.
Reply:When they are going to be in town, ask them where they are gong to stay? This will open up the question. If they say your house, let them know that it won't be convenient this time, maybe next time. Do this a few times and they will get the idea.


It is also okay to talk with them and let them know that they really need to ask about staying, it is okay most of the time, but it is a little presumptuous to just assume. They may get mad but they need to recognize you are an adult now.
Reply:Nothing is fun all the time.These people are your husbands parents and you need to respect that. How would you feel if it were your parents and your husband didn't want them staying? You should feel honored that they find your home so comfortable.That is a huge compliment to you and your husband.Your in laws will not be around forever.One day you will wish that they were able to come and visit.Take this time to build a stronger relationship with your in-laws.Enjoy the time you have to spend with them.When the day comes that they are no longer here,you will be glad that you did.
Reply:Move and don't give them your new address! J/K I would talk to your husband about this and make a plan to talk to your in-laws together.
Reply:Tell your husband that you don't like it and make him stand up to them. That's his job!
Reply:Close the shades, turn off all the lights and ignore the door bell.
Reply:1. Hide the cars in the garage and do not answer the door.


2. Get out of the house and stay busy with your bf/hubby. If you are not there at home, they cannot come over.


3.If all else fails, you will just have to politely tell them that you need quality time with your man. If it is his parents, it will need to come from him so they do not think it is only coming from you. He has to stand up to his own parents and siblings. (And vice versa)





-Good luck and God Bless.
Reply:Well you must set some rules.... let them know you two need time alone and it's not always good having someone else staying in the house.
Reply:Make it uncomfortable!


Walk around semi-nude, get one of those anoying pets like a neverendenig yelping mutt or something. Let some farts loose around them, or find out what they're allergic to and tell them you just became very attached to that particular allergen!





That, or just be honest and sit them down and have a civilized conversation. Let them know how you feel!
Reply:I would just be happy that they feel so comfortable with you. This means they view you as an immediate member of their family and as you get older family becomes more and more important. Someday you may need them in a crisis.





If they were coming every week it would be one thing but even at once a month for a couple of days I think it's manageable.
Reply:go out of the house more
Reply:tell your husband to talk to them and set some boundaries.
Reply:It's his family, so he has to take point.





You spell out to hubby what you're willing to live with, and then HE gets the joy of spelling that out to mom and dad.
Reply:You could make your husbands life a living hell and tell them that they can't come over anymore. I mean hey, that's what my brother does. And we only get to his neck of the woods once or twice a year. Just start a family war and tell them that they need to stay at a motel or something. Sounds like a great idea to me. By ALL the time you mean what?... Because when you say ALL the time I think of everyday, because everyday is ALL the time. Sensitive subject here for me. Sarcasm is always best. LOL
Reply:Let your hubby take care of that one
Reply:If you honey will not take care of it or they do not listen to him then it's time to confront them yourself. Telling them you need some warning so you can have extra stock in the fridge is needed for them to visit. You don't even need a reason, just need some amount of time. When they give you that warning then you can say "no" and you can just tell them a simple it's our "us" or "date night" time.





Keep in mind it is your house and no one should invade you in your house.
Reply:Well if they invite themselves and you have plans I would tell them they are welcome but you have plans on Sat night and won't be able to spend time with them. You can rent a movie for them or give them the local paper so they can have a choice on going out for the night or just kick back and relax. Since they are adults I don't think you need to hold there hand


for the entire weekend. I would think they would be OK with this since they look to stay over often.
Reply:Gosh... I truly feel bad for you! You may have to talk to your husband... just let him know that it's getting to be a bit much.





Either that or trade in your comfy couch for something a little less inviting ;)
Reply:Thats what in-laws are for....to bug you...but, lord love em its something you have to put up with....I have the same thing and although it is a hassle sometimes I love em and dont really mind.......good luck